The other day, while cleaning out my desk, I found this eraser. I bought it while on vacation with my sons in Zagreb, when I was deep into my separation with my husband at the time. While walking the old town of Zagreb we happen to stumble upon the Museum of Broken Relationships. How appropriate, I thought. Imagine a whole museum dedicated to what I was going through. It was amazing because it addressed every emotion and struggle that I was going through at the time. And my souvenir was this “bad memories eraser”.
During that time, I had to develop ways to cope through the daily trauma and the most effective techniques I used ranged from positive self talk to many many mindfulness techniques. The most effective technique, was to instantly become present. This is how I did it.
Where ever you are now, close your eyes, breath deeply into your belly and focus on the sounds around you …. the traffic, the birds, the wind. Now focus on your skin… the feeling of your clothes on your arms, your legs, your scalp, your face. Are you sitting or standing? How do your feet feel on the ground. Breathe deeply. Now come back by opening your eyes.
Using this technique of being in the present saved me. Now nine years later, the memories are still there, but they no longer hurt the way they used to. xo