What exactly are limiting beliefs? Because what is limiting to one person is liberating for another. For example, someone who is outgoing might find staying home on Friday nights suffocating and boring, while an introverted person might find this comforting and grounding.
So, what makes a “limiting belief”?
The Encarta dictionary defines “belief” as the “acceptance by the mind that something is true or real, often underpinned by an emotional or spiritual sense of certainty.” This definition accurately describes how multi-faceted a belief can be for us. A belief lives in every aspect of our being…the spiritual, mental and emotional. And it takes root in our energy systems and becomes our definition of who we are. This becomes our belief system.
Where do our beliefs come from?
When we are born into this world we come with a predetermined programming about who we are. This is based on the legacy our ancestors left us and defines our genetic make-up.
If you add what our parents teach us and then what we personally experience, these become powerful influencers. Our DNA is encoded with a certain ability to process information, so if you are exposed to an ungrounded nervous mother, and you were given the genetic make-up of a sensitive person then you will be affected more from your mother’s nervous energy than someone who isn’t as genetically predisposed to sensitivities.
How do we identify our limiting beliefs?
When our belief system stops us from doing the things we want to do, then we have to address what is holding us back from doing the things we want.
Say for example, you really want to travel on your own to India, but you have resisted this urge for years and talked yourself out of it. You hear yourself saying that it’s too dangerous or that you’ll get sick. These things may happen of course, but not any more so than living in the city that you live in right now.
So, what’s really holding you back from this dream vacation? Dig deep and you many find that you’re mother once said that travelling to India is very dangerous for a woman. And then you might remember that a friend travelled there and became sick with parasites. And then you may dig deeper and find that your grandmother was a social hermit. All things to reinforce your belief that you cannot travel to India.
How do you change your limiting beliefs?
Once you have identified your limiting self-talk around your trip to India, then you can break it apart and form another belief. Here’s how it would work: You tell your grandmother that her fear of going anywhere was her fear and not years and you energetically give the fear back to her. Then you also, give back your mother’s fear of travelling alone back to her energetically.
Then you alleviate your fears by rationalizing that travelling anywhere is just as dangerous as travelling in your own city; you still have to keep your handbag and wallet tucked away and be alert to any dangerous activity.
And if you want to reinforce this, you could ask more friends if they have travelled to India and what their experience was and if they can offer any tips. Helping your brain process your fears with cold hard facts is very effective. But doing the energetic work around your limited beliefs in the form of “Giving Back” is key to changing your energy and feelings, which are the drivers of our actions.
Being aware of your limiting beliefs and where they come from is the most important first step in overcoming your fears. We all have fears that we deal with all day long. They stop us from living the life we want. But when we start to reframe them, get some facts that support a positive outcome to what you are wanting to do it, this allows you to develop skills to alleviate your fears. It becomes easier and easier to change those limiting beliefs over time.