3 Ways to Alleviate Loneliness

When you are going through a divorce, the fear of being alone can be far greater than being with a person who no longer loves you. There’s a tendency to ignore or convince yourself that your partner’s behavior is acceptable to avoid loneliness. The fear of being alone overrides the fear of being mistreated because at least you aren’t alone. Let’s overcome this fear by discovering  3 ways to alleviate loneliness as you navigate your new life.

“Better the devil, you know” right?

As Marylin Monroe said, “It’s better to be unhappy alone than unhappy with someone”

The reasons for your divorce may include many things, but ultimately, the lack of partnership gets revealed, and you may come to realize that you were always alone in your marriage after all.

And then again, while going through the transition to a single life, you find yourself back in a lonely place.

There’s a shakedown when you go through a big life transition like divorce.  You find yourself losing longtime friends and acquaintances. Your community does a slow, disappearing act.  And then you find yourself in a sort of nowhere land with your social community.

Now what?

I often here, my clients say that they don’t want to be alone. And getting a new boyfriend becomes the only focus of all of their energy. There’s a desperation that makes for bad decision-making. And instead of using this opportunity of loneliness to work on the things that need to be worked on – inner self-work, they spend all their time on dating sites. This distraction only serves to keep you in loneliness.

There is a gift in being alone — an opportunity to repair the relationship with the most crucial person in your life – yourself.

I’ve learned many things from my transition, and this is what I’ve learned from being alone:

  1. I am never truly alone when I have people around me who love me.
  2. I can choose to be lonely and wallow in self-pity, but ultimately that will stop, and I will have learned a lesson of resilience.
  3. It has given me space and time to rediscover myself and fall in love with myself again.

As the Dalai Lama says: “Spend some time alone every day.”

Learn how to release the anxiety that comes with loneliness in 10 easy lessons.

Here are three things you can do right now to alleviate loneliness:

  1. Connect with one friend every day, even for a quick chat
  2. Go to places where people are – malls, café’s, parks
  3. Do those things that you love to do, but couldn’t do with your partner

Without the learning that comes with loneliness, you will find yourself in the same situation with other romantic relationships – alone. It is only when you fully realize the opportunity, can you then create a meaningful, loving relationship with yourself and others and ultimately come to understand that being alone is a gift.

I’m here to help you –  BreakFree from Loneliness Anxiety on Udemy.

Love Diana



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