6 Signs that you’re a Masochist

There are 2 definitions of a masochist in the dictionary. a sexual perversion characterized by pleasure in being subjected to pain or humiliation especially by a love object — compare this to sadism pleasure in being abused or dominated : a taste for suffering The first definition, might not even apply to you (but it might, wink, wink).  The “50 Shades of Grey” novels showed the world that women have this hidden desire on some
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Blame your parents for your divorce.

In the way of the Buddha, there is no one to blame but yourself.  Or put another way, you are in complete control of everything that happens in your life whether you are conscious of this or not.  And forgiveness is one of the Buddhist teachings anyway so even if you wanted to blame someone, you really have to forgive them at the same time. And when it comes to your romantic relationships, I say
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Take Back Your Power

I do this thing every year to make sure that I’m on track with my life.  It’s like a big life check-in. It’s called Astrology.  Now I’m sure some of you are rolling your eyes right now, like my son always does when I talk about Mercury Retrograde or when I text him a picture of his horoscope from my favourite astrologer in NOW magazine (a local Toronto Tabloid). I did my beginning of the
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Eating for Grief

When we feel like our life is falling apart, we cling to behaviors that make us feel like we have control. This is especially true when we are grieving. We simply don’t want to feel the pain of heartbreak and we naturally will do anything to distract ourselves from it. And the most common form of distraction I see is with food and eating. When I was young, I was aware of disordered eating behaviors
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Endings and Beginnings – 3 Steps to a Powerful 2018.

“Every day is a new beginning”. I’ve had this philosophy most of my life and it’s served me well to get through some tough times. And then there were times when I thought a period of my life would never end, no matter how many times I said my mantra. In fact, this past year has been one of those years of never ending repeating events. Like I was stuck in the same day, ala
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Loneliness 101

When you are going through divorce, the fear of being alone can be far greater than being with a person who no longer loves you.  There’s a tendency is to ignore or convince yourself that your partner's behavior is acceptable. The fear of being alone overrides the fear of being treated badly because at least you aren’t alone or are you...
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Surviving Separation Shock

When you go through a separation whether it is planned or not you are still presented with a new reality. It feels like your foundation has been pulled out from underneath your feet and you are free floating in space, not knowing what to grab onto. This feeling of not being grounded or connected to...
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Say these 3 little words

Does it still feel like your day isn’t long enough? That you aren’t keeping up? That you have too much to do and not enough time? It’s as if the world is getting faster and faster and the days are going by so quickly. I’ll bet you have lists of lists of lists to accomplish I get it. I was just like that. I would wake...
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Erasing bad memories

The other day, while cleaning out my desk, I found this eraser.  I bought it while on vacation with my sons in Zagreb, when I was deep into my separation with my husband at the time.  While walking the old town of Zagreb we happen to stumble upon the Museum of Broken Relationships. How appropriate...
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The epidemic no one’s talking about

Did you know that there’s an invisible epidemic that’s stopping us from living our lives to the fullest every day? This epidemic is one that your doctor knows about but isn’t addressing. This epidemic causes: Depression, Chronic Fatigue Syndrome, Hypothyroidism, Infertility, Weight gain, Slows your metabolism...
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