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The FUCK YES Method of Boundary setting

Deeper we go into boundary setting because we are doing it wrong and that’s why they are so difficult to maintain. If you focus on what you don’t want, you will only get what you don’t want. But if you focus on what you want then what you don’t want will never appear. It’s the FUCK YES Method of boundary setting.   Get it. It’s that simple a concept. But how do we apply it?
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It’s time to let those thoughts know who’s in charge.

The toughest thing we have to contend with when we are learning to love ourselves again, are our thoughts. It’s time to let those thoughts know who’s in charge. No matter what traumas and adverse experiences you’ve had, it’s the thoughts and resulting beliefs you make up from those experiences. Contrary to popular belief, you can control your thoughts.  You are in charge of your mind, not the other way around. Like a Navy Seal,
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Creating boundaries today means happiness tomorrow

I have many stories about myself that I have clung on to since I was child. The recent realization that these stories completely defined me, allowed me to let them go. Your quest for happiness means looking at that story you’ve been holding on to… and doing a rewrite. Because creating boundaries today means happiness tomorrow.   It happened for me when I was dating this British Art Curator. It was the summer “before the
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Forgiveness leaves a trail…Track it and let it go

Sometimes when we say we forgive someone, we really mean that we are trying to forgive them. The reality of forgiveness is that it’s an ongoing practice and never an absolute one method. Forgiveness leaves a trail…Track it and let it go I thought I had forgiveness all wrapped up but didn’t realize that I forgot about resent.   Many years ago, in the middle of my marriage, I realized that I needed to do
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Where do you go when love hurts?

When we experience heart break we go somewhere. Usually out of our body back to a time when that same pain was first experienced. We call it childhood trauma or our inner child or the shadow side. Where ever you go, it’s a repeating pattern that keeps us in heartbreak. You can’t run away from your pain. Oh, you can try, but you know that it will always show up in some form at themost
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How you do Self-love is how you Love

That’s essentially the answer to all your heartbreak woes. When you understand the heartbreak you’re carrying around is defined by how well you treat yourself, then you can start to take matters into your own hands. You have the power to change how you receive and how you send out love. Simply put, how you do self-love is how you love. But it has to start with you first. And it’s the same principle as
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Set Yourself Up for Successful Online Dating

I recently decided to go back to dating sites. Like a new addiction, the thought of having new conversations and possibly meeting up with new and different men seemed a little exciting. It pulled me back in like a black hole consumes matter. With all my coaching tools in hand, I decided to enlist my PMA – Positive Mental Attitude. It has helped me out in many a life-altering situation and so with a big
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Top 10 foods to make you happy again

Fact: Our gut and brain are connected. Which means that whatever you eat has a direct effect on your mood. Your emotional wellbeing, especially when you’re recovering from heartbreak, must be your primary concern if you’re ever going to heal. So, let’s start with the one thing you can control… your eating. I’ll reveal the top 10 foods to make you happy again. Why food can fuel your heartbreak When practitioners say holistic healing today,
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How to Break a Soul Contract

When it’s impossible to break away from a toxic relationship, what options do you have? You know it’s toxic. You know that you have to break free from it to live more fully. But there seems to be this invisible force that won’t allow you to release its hold on you. Discover the underlying story and its intensity in your life and then learn how to break a soul contract so you can find freedom
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Reclaiming your Voice after it’s been shut down

If you want that beautiful relationship that you’ve been dreaming of and deserve, then you have to learn the rules of good communication. And if you’ve been taught to shut down your voice or express yourself from your wounded inner child then you’ll find getting what you want to be difficult. Without good communication relationships break down and then fall apart. Reclaiming your voice after it’s been shut down is the foundation for recreating your
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