Archives for break-up

Going deep into what destabilizes you

In modern psychology, it’s called disregulation but I like the reference to destabilization because it accurately describes this constant state of being uncentred. They use it in politics when they say a government has been destabilized and right now it’s appropriate to say that our world is destabilized.  This state can also be a result of heart break, maybe not initially but it always affects the heart. The heart is your centre and coming back
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5 Steps to Rewire Your Brain for the Love You Want

We are continually rewiring our brain all day long. Whenever we do something different in our routine, or when we have to deal with a new situation, we are retraining our brain to think about it in a new way so we can access some further information. Pro Athletes and high performers do it all the time. And I’ll show you how to rewire your brain for the love you want in 5 steps. “I
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The 7 Costs of Heartbreak

You can't be a human being without experiencing heartbreak. It’s part of the human condition and it’s part of our experience from the very beginning of our lives.  The challenge then becomes how to heal from heartbreak and accept that heartbreak is a temporary condition.  We have the power to change this part of our life experience by understanding that there are 7 costs of heartbreak and how we can regain our happy self...
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Flowing through grief

Sadness starts as a thought. The realization that something has ended, is lost, will never be, will never be again. It strikes hard. The body reacts and then you must decide; do I resist this and try my best to pretend it didn’t happen or do I accept it and start flowing through the grief? That’s the question. I have found that the 6 stages of heartbreak each have their own quality. And when you
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Gratitude and Divorce

I have found that everything we’re taught about gratitude is true and that being thankful is the best way to reach freedom and self-love. But when you struggle with thoughts that remind you that you aren’t where you “should” be in your life, the idea of being grateful then becomes an Olympian challenge to achieve. Is it possible to have gratitude for your divorce? I have some thoughts on the subject. We know that break-ups
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Missing Home – the quest to find my new place

I’m surprised to admit that I’ve been looking to the past lately. I preach living in the present and recreating your future. And I encourage seeing the past as a lesson, so it’s a bit of a shock that I find myself in some sort of nostalgic reminiscing land. As I continue on the quest to find my new place, I also find myself missing the home that I spent 20 years to build. I
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How to Survive Separation Shock

When you go through a separation whether it is planned or not you are still presented with a new reality. It feels like your foundation has been pulled out from underneath your feet and you are free floating in space, not knowing what to grab onto. This feeling of not being grounded or connected to...
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How to Erase Bad Memories

The other day, while cleaning out my desk, I found this eraser.  I bought it while on vacation with my sons in Zagreb, when I was deep into my separation with my husband at the time.  While walking the old town of Zagreb we happen to stumble upon the Museum of Broken Relationships. How appropriate...
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