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3 things you can do right now to get over Separation Shock

Going through a divorce or romantic breakup of any kind is traumatic. Your hopes and dreams of a future together vanish, leaving you bewildered, dumbfounded, and emotionally gutted. It’s as if your world has just turned upside down, and you’re free-floating without an anchor. The emotional devastation you experience during a break up is phase one of the grief process; shock and denial. And there are 3 things you can do right now to get
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How to Trust After Betrayal and Stop the Lying

When entering into a relationship, there must be a level of trust for intimacy to take place. Trust is the gateway to intimacy; without it, there is no possibility for closeness to happen. But when trust is broken, and betrayal shows up, then you must make a decision about that relationship and all others. Do you use this experience as a benchmark for all other relationships? Or do you learn how to trust again after
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In Search Of My Soulmate

If you are still in search of your soulmate; If you haven’t been beaten down enough by your divorce, and are still enthusiastic and hopeful, then you may still be asking this question. “Where is my soulmate?”  The first or second or third (I don’t judge) spouse certainly wasn’t the one. Because if they were, then the divorce wouldn’t have happened, right? Let’s get some clarity over how this soulmate thing works. What is a
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Missing Home – the quest to find my new place

I’m surprised to admit that I’ve been looking to the past lately. I preach living in the present and recreating your future. And I encourage seeing the past as a lesson, so it’s a bit of a shock that I find myself in some sort of nostalgic reminiscing land. As I continue on the quest to find my new place, I also find myself missing the home that I spent 20 years to build. I
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Resurrection – How I Rebuilt My Life

There were times when I thought that phase of my life would never end. My separation process lasted 5 years and seemed like an eternity. I lived in a perpetual state of not knowing what would happen next. I held my breath, bracing for the next gut-wrenching blow to a wound already open and festering. Emotional purgatory is what I used to call it. I longed to reclaim my life. I prayed for a resurrection.
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How To Tell If You’re Really Over Heartbreak

You think you’re over it. Your friends are pushing you to get online and start dating again. Or even worse, they try to set you up. But after all this time, are you really over your ex? How can you tell if you’re really over heartbreak? For you to answer that question, you first have to understand the phases of heartbreak and where you might be stuck. Heartbreak is grief. It’s the most common form
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How Your Past Can Heal Your Heart

The many ancient mystics and modern day gurus will teach you to be in the present and not dwell in the past or look to the future. Even modern day psychologists realize that bringing their patients back to look at past traumas only serves to re-traumatize and not necessarily heal them. The past has the power to heal your heart. But I say, to learn and grow into the beings we are here to become,
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The 3 Steps to Your Ultimate Happiness

So, you’ve spent so much of your energy breaking free from your Ex, and now you’re not happy to be alone? WTF!!! Let me help you out with these 3 Steps to your ultimate happiness. We all want to have the freedom to be who we are and do what we want. And this is especially true when we have tasted what freedom feels like after recovering from a divorce or break-up. Freedom can be
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How to Survive Separation Shock

When you go through a separation whether it is planned or not you are still presented with a new reality. It feels like your foundation has been pulled out from underneath your feet and you are free floating in space, not knowing what to grab onto. This feeling of not being grounded or connected to...
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