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How to be happy every single day

Learning to live a life where you have the power to be happy every single day, seems almost impossible doesn’t it. But it’s not. The key to how to be happy every single day is to find acceptance in everything that comes up. Whether it’s unpleasant or pleasant, it is what needed to happen or was destined to happen for your learning and evolution. I’m not saying that you won’t have times when you’re sad
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When it’s too painful to let go

We’ve been talking about heartbreak and love lives for a while now. We’ve also talked about the ways in which you can let go of inherited love patterns that keep you in suffering. But sometimes you have enlist new techniques to let go of someone who isn’t flowing with you.  When it’s too painful to let go, we have to enlist another layer of practice. When it’s too painful to let go, you have to
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The Secret to Attraction

I’m not going to tell you that manifesting to attract what you want is all about mindset, because it is and it’s not. There’s a secret to attraction that not many people talk about. And I’m going to tell you all about it and how you can harness it within yourself. Because it’s there already, within you. You have had it all along. But society and all of our influencers have told us not to
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The FUCK YES Method of Boundary setting

Deeper we go into boundary setting because we are doing it wrong and that’s why they are so difficult to maintain. If you focus on what you don’t want, you will only get what you don’t want. But if you focus on what you want then what you don’t want will never appear. It’s the FUCK YES Method of boundary setting.   Get it. It’s that simple a concept. But how do we apply it?
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It’s time to let those thoughts know who’s in charge.

The toughest thing we have to contend with when we are learning to love ourselves again, are our thoughts. It’s time to let those thoughts know who’s in charge. No matter what traumas and adverse experiences you’ve had, it’s the thoughts and resulting beliefs you make up from those experiences. Contrary to popular belief, you can control your thoughts.  You are in charge of your mind, not the other way around. Like a Navy Seal,
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Forgiveness leaves a trail…Track it and let it go

Sometimes when we say we forgive someone, we really mean that we are trying to forgive them. The reality of forgiveness is that it’s an ongoing practice and never an absolute one method. Forgiveness leaves a trail…Track it and let it go I thought I had forgiveness all wrapped up but didn’t realize that I forgot about resent.   Many years ago, in the middle of my marriage, I realized that I needed to do
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Where do you go when love hurts?

When we experience heart break we go somewhere. Usually out of our body back to a time when that same pain was first experienced. We call it childhood trauma or our inner child or the shadow side. Where ever you go, it’s a repeating pattern that keeps us in heartbreak. You can’t run away from your pain. Oh, you can try, but you know that it will always show up in some form at themost
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Blame Your Parents For Your Divorce.

In the way of the Buddha, there is no one to blame but yourself.  Or put another way, you are in complete control of everything that happens in your life whether you are conscious of this or not.  And forgiveness is one of the Buddhist teachings anyway so even if you wanted to blame someone, you have to forgive them at the same time. However, you can blame your parents for your divorce. And when
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Eliminating the shame of not being partnered

Our society doesn’t like things to be out of order. It says, we should all be in loving relationships and if you’re not, then there’s something wrong with you.  Your challenge then becomes eliminating the shame of not being partnered. I remember, viscerally, the feeling of being shunned and ostracized by the women who were part of my neighbourhood Mom tribe. The many years of supporting each other with our children: the PTA meetings, Fund-raisers,
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Flowing through grief

Sadness starts as a thought. The realization that something has ended, is lost, will never be, will never be again. It strikes hard. The body reacts and then you must decide; do I resist this and try my best to pretend it didn’t happen or do I accept it and start flowing through the grief? That’s the question. I have found that the 6 stages of heartbreak each have their own quality. And when you
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