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It’s time to let those thoughts know who’s in charge.

The toughest thing we have to contend with when we are learning to love ourselves again, are our thoughts. It’s time to let those thoughts know who’s in charge. No matter what traumas and adverse experiences you’ve had, it’s the thoughts and resulting beliefs you make up from those experiences. Contrary to popular belief, you can control your thoughts.  You are in charge of your mind, not the other way around. Like a Navy Seal,
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Creating boundaries today means happiness tomorrow

I have many stories about myself that I have clung on to since I was child. The recent realization that these stories completely defined me, allowed me to let them go. Your quest for happiness means looking at that story you’ve been holding on to… and doing a rewrite. Because creating boundaries today means happiness tomorrow.   It happened for me when I was dating this British Art Curator. It was the summer “before the
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Forgiveness leaves a trail…Track it and let it go

Sometimes when we say we forgive someone, we really mean that we are trying to forgive them. The reality of forgiveness is that it’s an ongoing practice and never an absolute one method. Forgiveness leaves a trail…Track it and let it go I thought I had forgiveness all wrapped up but didn’t realize that I forgot about resent.   Many years ago, in the middle of my marriage, I realized that I needed to do
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5 Steps to Rewire Your Brain for the Love You Want

We are continually rewiring our brain all day long. Whenever we do something different in our routine, or when we have to deal with a new situation, we are retraining our brain to think about it in a new way so we can access some further information. Pro Athletes and high performers do it all the time. And I’ll show you how to rewire your brain for the love you want in 5 steps. “I
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Blame Your Parents For Your Divorce.

In the way of the Buddha, there is no one to blame but yourself.  Or put another way, you are in complete control of everything that happens in your life whether you are conscious of this or not.  And forgiveness is one of the Buddhist teachings anyway so even if you wanted to blame someone, you have to forgive them at the same time. However, you can blame your parents for your divorce. And when
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How to Find True Power – the Feminine Essence

Here’s something I have to admit to you. I didn’t know what it meant to be a second-sex until I got married. I realized that I was living my life in mostly a masculine energy way and that if I wanted to be in a healthy relationship with a male that I would have to learn how to find true power - the feminine essence. Masculine vs feminine when I was young I never experienced male superiority of any kind when I was young. Or maybe I did but...
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A new way of intimacy, Tantra and juicy love

Esther Perel says the first sign that your relationship is over is lack of sex. I believe it happens way before that and if you want to make sure you don’t repeat the same mistakes in a new relationship you need to find a new way of intimacy, Tantra and juicy love. Our way of living is changing in all areas. We are waking up to the realization that the old way isn’t working any
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Now your Ex wants to introduce the new GF to your kids

You’re done, separated, divorced and you think everything is copacetic. You’ve gone your separate ways. The joint custody schedule with the kids is running smoothly. You think you can finally get on with your life and then it happens. Your Ex has a new girlfriend. And now your Ex wants to introduce the new GF to your kids. What do you do?   Just when you think you’ve got your emotions all sorted out and
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The Real Reason You Broke Up

You have your list of things that went wrong in your relationship. You know exactly when it started and the first conversation that sparked the breakdown. It was an argument that didn’t get resolved or a behaviour that you could no longer tolerate. But was it really those things or was it something underneath that sparked those behaviours. What if the real reason you broke up wasn’t the obvious but something else that you couldn’t
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The Attachment Style to Avoid

Since the 60’s when psychologist, John Bowlby, developed Attachment Theory, we have had a plethora of information about dating, conscious coupling, and relationships. I don’t think there is anything that consumes us more than discovering the A, B, C’s of a great romantic relationship. With all of the information out there, no one will warn you about this one attachment style to avoid. But I will. John Bowlby studied children and how they attached to their parents.
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