Archives for self-care

Pushing yourself through Unlove

I was reminded recently that growth happens when you push through the discomfort. As Sarah Polley’s new book title accurately advises Run Towards The Danger. When you are in a place of fear, anxiety, disbelief there is only one way out. Pushing yourself through unlove will challenge everything you think is real, because it’s not. What you think is happening is a figment of your collective memory from how your DNA is programmed to respond
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It’s time to let those thoughts know who’s in charge.

The toughest thing we have to contend with when we are learning to love ourselves again, are our thoughts. It’s time to let those thoughts know who’s in charge. No matter what traumas and adverse experiences you’ve had, it’s the thoughts and resulting beliefs you make up from those experiences. Contrary to popular belief, you can control your thoughts.  You are in charge of your mind, not the other way around. Like a Navy Seal,
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Forgiveness leaves a trail…Track it and let it go

Sometimes when we say we forgive someone, we really mean that we are trying to forgive them. The reality of forgiveness is that it’s an ongoing practice and never an absolute one method. Forgiveness leaves a trail…Track it and let it go I thought I had forgiveness all wrapped up but didn’t realize that I forgot about resent.   Many years ago, in the middle of my marriage, I realized that I needed to do
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Where do you go when love hurts?

When we experience heart break we go somewhere. Usually out of our body back to a time when that same pain was first experienced. We call it childhood trauma or our inner child or the shadow side. Where ever you go, it’s a repeating pattern that keeps us in heartbreak. You can’t run away from your pain. Oh, you can try, but you know that it will always show up in some form at themost
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Reclaiming your Voice after it’s been shut down

If you want that beautiful relationship that you’ve been dreaming of and deserve, then you have to learn the rules of good communication. And if you’ve been taught to shut down your voice or express yourself from your wounded inner child then you’ll find getting what you want to be difficult. Without good communication relationships break down and then fall apart. Reclaiming your voice after it’s been shut down is the foundation for recreating your
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Detox Anger and Release Shame

Spring is about expansion, growth and harmony. That’s why this is the best time to do the work to detox anger and release shame. The best way to do this – address your energetic blocks via the  Third/Sacral or Manipura Chakra. The Third Chakra is responsible for the liver, gallbladder, pancreas, stomach, upper digestive tracts, spleen. When imbalanced these organs will reflect the emotional stress that needs to be addressed, such as anger. And the
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The Power of NO – Setting healthy boundaries

Setting healthy boundaries after a breakup has taken on a new definition. With social media and modern technology, it seems like making a clean break is an impossible task. It’s all about how you do it that matters. We’ll explore how the power of “NO” is more important than ever when you want to forget and get on with your life. Why you can’t let go As I look back on my 20-year marriage and
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When it’s impossible to forgive

You understand that forgiveness is a doorway to happiness, growth and freedom. You know you have to find forgiveness for all the wrong that you’ve experienced in your life to be free. But when the offence is too big to comprehend, and when it’s impossible to forgive, how do you let go of the victim story that's holding you back? What other alternatives to forgiveness is there that will make your journey more bearable...
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How to Eat Your Way to Happiness

One of the first things to go when we’re in heartbreak is our diet. We will do anything to feel better, and that includes eating all the foods we know are bad for us. But if you make some small adjustments to your diet, you can eat your way to happiness. I did it. My go-to feel better food is sugar. I now know that it’s an addiction, but back then, all I could do
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How To Tell If You’re Really Over Heartbreak

You think you’re over it. Your friends are pushing you to get online and start dating again. Or even worse, they try to set you up. But after all this time, are you really over your ex? How can you tell if you’re really over heartbreak? For you to answer that question, you first have to understand the phases of heartbreak and where you might be stuck. Heartbreak is grief. It’s the most common form
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