Archives for self-love

Do you have good boundaries?

This is the question I’m asking these days. When your life seems out of control and not where we want it to be, most often the anxiety you feel about life indicates that you’ve lost sense of your boundaries. When I ask, “Do you have good boundaries?” you say yes, but you really mean no. When we’re trying to put back our lives or repair our hearts from a romantic breakup or grief from the
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How to Live in Self Love & Turn Emotional Pain into Power

Remember that Sex In the City scene when Miranda’s boss did the same thing to her and she retaliated and eventually quit her job? She showed us how to live in self love an turn emotional pain into power when she finally decided to quit. I wonder how many women are feeling dismissed right now in their jobs and with their spouses or close relationships. Have any idea? I searched this online and saw article
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Going deep into what destabilizes you

In modern psychology, it’s called disregulation but I like the reference to destabilization because it accurately describes this constant state of being uncentred. They use it in politics when they say a government has been destabilized and right now it’s appropriate to say that our world is destabilized.  This state can also be a result of heart break, maybe not initially but it always affects the heart. The heart is your centre and coming back
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Pushing yourself through Unlove

I was reminded recently that growth happens when you push through the discomfort. As Sarah Polley’s new book title accurately advises Run Towards The Danger. When you are in a place of fear, anxiety, disbelief there is only one way out. Pushing yourself through unlove will challenge everything you think is real, because it’s not. What you think is happening is a figment of your collective memory from how your DNA is programmed to respond
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Unleash the power of your feminine

At this time and in these bodies, in this world, we live in polarity. There is always a good and bad, light and dark, yin and yang, feminine and masculine. When you unleash the power of your feminine, you will become more focussed, self-assured and all powerful. This is the way it is.  This isn’t about gender. Whether you’re male or female – each gender has both of these polarities – feminine and masculine essence.
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The FUCK YES Method of Boundary setting

Deeper we go into boundary setting because we are doing it wrong and that’s why they are so difficult to maintain. If you focus on what you don’t want, you will only get what you don’t want. But if you focus on what you want then what you don’t want will never appear. It’s the FUCK YES Method of boundary setting.   Get it. It’s that simple a concept. But how do we apply it?
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It’s time to let those thoughts know who’s in charge.

The toughest thing we have to contend with when we are learning to love ourselves again, are our thoughts. It’s time to let those thoughts know who’s in charge. No matter what traumas and adverse experiences you’ve had, it’s the thoughts and resulting beliefs you make up from those experiences. Contrary to popular belief, you can control your thoughts.  You are in charge of your mind, not the other way around. Like a Navy Seal,
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Creating boundaries today means happiness tomorrow

I have many stories about myself that I have clung on to since I was child. The recent realization that these stories completely defined me, allowed me to let them go. Your quest for happiness means looking at that story you’ve been holding on to… and doing a rewrite. Because creating boundaries today means happiness tomorrow.   It happened for me when I was dating this British Art Curator. It was the summer “before the
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Forgiveness leaves a trail…Track it and let it go

Sometimes when we say we forgive someone, we really mean that we are trying to forgive them. The reality of forgiveness is that it’s an ongoing practice and never an absolute one method. Forgiveness leaves a trail…Track it and let it go I thought I had forgiveness all wrapped up but didn’t realize that I forgot about resent.   Many years ago, in the middle of my marriage, I realized that I needed to do
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Where do you go when love hurts?

When we experience heart break we go somewhere. Usually out of our body back to a time when that same pain was first experienced. We call it childhood trauma or our inner child or the shadow side. Where ever you go, it’s a repeating pattern that keeps us in heartbreak. You can’t run away from your pain. Oh, you can try, but you know that it will always show up in some form at themost
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