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How to Cope with the Trauma of Divorce

When I started doing things that were out of character and saying things to colleagues that confused even me, I knew things weren’t right. I started realizing that I was in trauma during my separation.  I had to find out how to cope with the trauma of my divorce.   STRESS or TRAUMA?   It’s now in the zeitgeist, and we’re all being shown trauma. But back then we were only dealing with “stress”. It
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Flowing through grief

Sadness starts as a thought. The realization that something has ended, is lost, will never be, will never be again. It strikes hard. The body reacts and then you must decide; do I resist this and try my best to pretend it didn’t happen or do I accept it and start flowing through the grief? That’s the question. I have found that the 6 stages of heartbreak each have their own quality. And when you
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The Antidote to Denied Love

Love is all powerful. It can elevate your life and give you superpowers you never thought existed. But when it’s withheld or blocked then the damage can be irreparable unless you practice the antidote to denied love. Is there an antidote to denied love? We are seeing it in the world right now in a macro way. Our governments have made human connection illegal. You will be fined if you go too close or reveal your smile to anyone...
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Gratitude and Divorce

I have found that everything we’re taught about gratitude is true and that being thankful is the best way to reach freedom and self-love. But when you struggle with thoughts that remind you that you aren’t where you “should” be in your life, the idea of being grateful then becomes an Olympian challenge to achieve. Is it possible to have gratitude for your divorce? I have some thoughts on the subject. We know that break-ups
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3 things you can do right now to get over Separation Shock

Going through a divorce or romantic breakup of any kind is traumatic. Your hopes and dreams of a future together vanish, leaving you bewildered, dumbfounded, and emotionally gutted. It’s as if your world has just turned upside down, and you’re free-floating without an anchor. The emotional devastation you experience during a break up is phase one of the grief process; shock and denial. And there are 3 things you can do right now to get
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In Search Of My Soulmate

If you are still in search of your soulmate; If you haven’t been beaten down enough by your divorce, and are still enthusiastic and hopeful, then you may still be asking this question. “Where is my soulmate?”  The first or second or third (I don’t judge) spouse certainly wasn’t the one. Because if they were, then the divorce wouldn’t have happened, right? Let’s get some clarity over how this soulmate thing works. What is a
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How To Tell If You’re Really Over Heartbreak

You think you’re over it. Your friends are pushing you to get online and start dating again. Or even worse, they try to set you up. But after all this time, are you really over your ex? How can you tell if you’re really over heartbreak? For you to answer that question, you first have to understand the phases of heartbreak and where you might be stuck. Heartbreak is grief. It’s the most common form
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How Your Past Can Heal Your Heart

The many ancient mystics and modern day gurus will teach you to be in the present and not dwell in the past or look to the future. Even modern day psychologists realize that bringing their patients back to look at past traumas only serves to re-traumatize and not necessarily heal them. The past has the power to heal your heart. But I say, to learn and grow into the beings we are here to become,
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How your eating is affecting your Love Life

Eating is fundamental. We need it to live of course, but did you know how you eat is affecting your love life? Many factors affect our energy and how we project ourselves. Our inner dialogue, emotional well-being, perceived level of security, friends, and family, and what we put in your body all affect our outer self-image. How we feel about ourselves takes all of these outside influences into account. They all affect how we think
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6 Signs You’re A Masochist

If you have ever been a “giver” or a “fixer” or a “nurturer.” Then listen up. I’ve compiled 6 signs showing you’re a masochist. When we give to depletion, we create an imbalance in our bodies, our lives, and in our souls. It’s not that the other person is selfish, a liar, and a taker. We let them be selfish, lie, and take because we are masochists. #truthbomb. Let’s explore this a bit more. There
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